Thursday, January 8

Glam Girl Gets Personal

Happy Thursday Glam Squad! In lieu of Monday's One Year Blogiversary celebration, I thought it was the perfect time to share with you the personal side of my journey over this past year.  The part of my journey that does not involve fashion or outfits or shopping, it's the true reason why Good Girl Gone Glam and all of you have been such an amazing and important part of my life. 


      Right before Good Girl Gone Glam was born, my husband and I were in the midst of trying to conceive our first child.  We had been trying since 2012 and in 2013 we decided to seek assistance from a fertility specialist after many unsuccessful months of trying on our own.  If you have not had difficulties conceiving, the first thing I want you to do is thank God (or who ever you pray to) that you were blessed with the ability to conceive naturally.  It is a greater gift than you know.  

      Over the many months of negative pregnancy tests, trips back and forth to the doctor, being poked and prodded, and undergoing unsuccessful fertility treatments, I noticed that I was slowly sinking into a black hole.  I stopped going to the gym, caring what I looked like, I was stressed out to the max, and I knew I was losing that twinkle in my eye.  Basically, turning into someone that I didn't recognize or want to be.  When I seemed to be standing on the edge of the proverbial "cliff",  I decided to take my situation into my own hands before I was past the point of no return.  I was not going to let this situation ruin me.  I had WAY too many positive things going on in my life to let this struggle define who I was.  

 I knew it was time for a distraction.  Counting the days between treatment and pregnancy tests (which was14 long ass days) was taking over my brain month after month and getting pregnant was all that consumed my mind. So, I knew it was time to do something I had wanted to do for many years but never had the guts- start a fashion blog. It was the first time in my life when the thought of starting a blog wasn't followed by one ounce of reservation in my mind.  It was time to jump in and throw all caution to the wind! Boy, was I glad that I did!

     Good Girl Gone Glam was the best distraction I could have asked for.  I was tapping into my love of fashion, meeting amazing people, being inspired and supported by all of you on a daily basis.  Before I knew it, that 14 days between treatment and pregnancy test was no longer a countdown.  I was too busy with positive thoughts and didn't have time to think about what may or may not happen or the potential disappointment to follow. 

     In March of last year, I also started participating in the #100 Happy Days movement on Instagram. (Click here).  This activity encouraged me to find at least one positive thing in my day, proving that even when having a bad day/week/month/year, there were positive things all around me, I just had to take a step back and notice them.   If you go on Instagram and look up the hashtag "Glam girl gets happy" you can see my 100 days of pictures. 

        There is (as you know) a very happy ending to this story.  My husband and I are expecting our first child at the end of May and we could not be happier.  These two years were very trying and emotional for the both of us, but we ended this journey stronger individually as well as a couple.   I do not know what I would do without my sweet, amazing, thoughtful, and supportive husband as he was my rock and was by my side always reminding me that I wasn't alone in this journey.  We are also very lucky to have amazing family and friends who were there for us throughout this time, crying with us, smiling with us, cheering us on, and celebrating with us when we shared our good news.  

  I also owe a huge thank you to all of you, my Glaminators.  Your sweet words, comments, inspiration, friendship, and blog-love helped me get through the days when all I felt like doing was crying.  You have all done more for me than you will ever know. Thank you, thank you, thank you.

  I knew this was something I wanted to share because I  know there are so many woman out there going through this issue or know someone who is.  As woman, we have to support each other and no one should be ashamed of their struggles with infertility.  I came across an article of (8 things you should never say to someone struggling with infertility) that is a great read and very helpful when giving support to someone who is dealing with fertility issues.  (To read click here.)  

Thank you for taking the time to read this.  It took a lot of courage to share this with you but I am proud of where I have been and where I am going and it is important for woman out there to know they aren't alone in their struggles.  No matter how dark the tunnel, there is always a light at the end. 
Much love to all of you!


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44 comments :

  1. Marianne, such an amazing post. Yes, blog is such a great distraction. You can run away from your everyday life. I am so happy that your dream came true after. Kiss, Mel www.livingoncloude9.com

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    1. Thank you so much Mel! I love this blog so much and I am a very lucky girl! Thanks for reading! xo

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  2. First and foremost I'm so so happy for you and that you are going to be welcoming a little baby into this world, a dream come true for you both!!! It's amazing what blogging can do and what the people in this community can do: lift you up, give you hope, be there for you and root for you!!! Thank you for sharing your story!! xo, Biana - BlovedBoston

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    1. Thank you so much Biana! That's exactly what this blog and this community has done for me and I am super lucky to have been lifted up like amazing people like you! xo Thanks for stopping by and reading my story!

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  3. Aww, I'm so happy you followed your heart and started this blog, and of course that your dreams are coming true and you're pregnant! I love your positive outlook and how you have three choices when faced with adversity- no truer words, and we could all learn a little something from you. :)

    -Ashley
    Le Stylo Rouge

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    1. Thank you so much girl! If this post helps even one person I will be thrilled. It's so hard to see the light when your brain is filled with so much darkness. Thanks for taking the time to read my story, it means so much to me! xo

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  4. I'm so glad you decided to share the personal side of your life and experiences since starting the blog! Your positive attitude is totally inspiring! I am so glad you decided to start a blog to help distract you from your fertility struggles and that it was able to give you a boost on your down days! Many congrats on your pregnancy and I can't wait to see what 2015 has in store for you!
    Gina - On the Daily Express

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    1. Thanks Gina! You were one of the people that I have met through this experience that has uplifted my days and have brought a smile to my face through your blog and our personal emails. Thank you for everything. xo

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  5. Thank you for sharing such a personal story ... I never would have guessed that the smiling bubbly Marianne was struggling with something behind the scenes. I am not personally in a position to have a child, but I can only imagine the stress and pain involved and you opening up and sharing that to unite women leaves me speechless! Thank you for being an inspiration, not only in your style but as your true self as an individual!
    Cheers, Monique

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    1. Monique you brought tears to my eyes. Thank you so much for taking the time to read this and leaving such a sweet and thoughtful comment! You are a perfect example of the amazingly wonderful people I have met through this blog and I am truly blessed! xo

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  6. So happy for you and your hubby! Love your blog and look forward to seeing that adorable baby bump!
    XOXO,
    April :)

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  7. Thank you so much for sharing your story! I love your honesty and think it's amazing what the blogging community can do!! So happy for you and your hubby!

    XO,
    Gentry
    Girl Meets Bow

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  8. Oh girl - I am so sorry to hear about the troubles that you had and I never would have guessed because you have always been such a beacon of positivity! I was already thrilled to hear that you were expecting, but now I am ecstatic. Such a blessing for you and your husband and I am thrilled beyond words that your prayers have been answered. I'm sure writing a post like this can be pretty scary - but thank you for being so open and honest, I'm sure your words will help many women out there who may be struggling with the same thing. Sending you lots of love and hugs!
    xoxo Danielle
    For the Love of Leopard

    PS are you going to be finding out the gender?

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    1. Thank you so much! If this post helps just one person I would be happy! I have to thank you for all the love and support you have shown me, you lifted my spirits when you didn't even know I needed it! We are going to be finding out the gender! Stay tuned! ;)

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  9. Congrats! I am so happy for you and your husband. Having a child is one of the best experiences in life, be prepared for your life to change forever but in a really good way. Good luck!
    Nora
    www.jacketsociety.com

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    1. Thanks Nora, so I hear! We are so ready for a life change! Cannot wait! Thanks for your well wishes and your thoughtful comment!

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  10. Marianne,
    Thanks for sharing your story and for you openness! I never would have guessed that this is what led you to create your blog, but I'm glad the blog became a welcome distraction. It is so true that amazing things often come out of our toughest times and that makes us appreciate them more. I was also surprised by the amazing community of women when I started this blog and it has become one of my favorite parts of blogging. I'm so happy for you guys and can't wait to see what 2015 brings!

    Nicole
    Nicole to the Nines

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    1. Thanks Nicole! I am so glad to have met you in this community! I LOVE your style and your blog always served as a good distraction because your looks are always so inspiring!

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  11. Wow, thank you for sharing. It's actually quite interesting to hear the real reason behind the creation (and maintaining of) a person's blog. You seem to positive all of the time, so I was surprised to read your story.

    I have a friend who's going through this now, and I think she'd find this post to be an even better read than I do.

    I was excited for you already, but now I'm even more excited for you!
    Jackie
    Something About That

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    1. Thank you so much Jackie! I hope you share it with your friend! It's nice to know we are all in this together! xo

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  12. Marianne, first of all you are so brave for sharing your personal journey and I'm so proud of you for doing so!! I'm sorry to hear that you had these struggles but it led you to this beautiful stage in your life so it was all worth it!! I love the quote about choosing how you deal with a bad situation and you my friend clearly made it strengthen you! Thanks for sharing about this very important topic and I am sure it will help and comfort many women out there because fertility issues are so common yet they are not often discussed. I am even more excited for you and you are going to love being a mom, it's the most precious gift anyone can ever receive:-) God bless your pregnancy and I am so excited for the gender reveal too.
    Marta, xoxo
    www.sweatersstripesandsweets.com

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    1. Thanks Marta! Your friendship has done so much for me and I am grateful to have met you through this amazing community! ox

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  13. Thank you for sharing your story. There are so many women who struggle privately with fertility. I am so very excited for you and your hubby and hope you have the best pregnancy!

    Brooke
    pumps and push-ups

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  14. I am so happy your story has a happy ending, congratulations! Also, congrats on being able to choose to be happy and strong and not giving up. You sound like a very inspirational person, I'm going to follow your lovely blog!

    Fashionably,
    Patricia
    http://www.wingsforliberty.com/

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    1. Thank you so much Patricia your sweet words mean a lot! Thanks for following along! xo

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  15. Crying my eyes out! Your are so brave & are going to be the best mom ever! Love you!

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  16. You're such an inspiration & so brave for sharing your story! Thank you! (:

    ♥ | http://www.connect-the-cloths.com
    http://www.carseyyycakes.tumblr.com | xoxo

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    1. Thanks Carsla! Loved the story you shared on your blog as well! xo

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  17. This is an absolutely beautiful story! Thank you so much for sharing! God bless you and your growing family!!

    xoxo,

    Kellie
    Carolina Clover
    http://carolinaclover.com

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  18. First off thank you for your bravery in sharing your story. I'm so glad that it has had a happy ending for you and your husband and that you were able to focus on the positive throughout the long journey. Also congrats on your one year blog anniversary! Blogging is definitely a great way to not just distract yourself but to grow as a person. All the best!

    http://www.lookfortheoccasion.com

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  19. What a courageous post . This really touched me I can relate with you on having this blog be a distraction. I have struggled with low self esteem all my life and this blog and meeting fabulous bloggers as yourself has really forced me to come out of my shell. I am so happy for you and your husband wishing you many blessings

    Mary
    http://curlybyrdiechirps.blogspot.com

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    1. I would never know you struggled with self esteem girl, you would never know looking at your fab looks and your beautiful pictures! Thank goodness for this community and for fabulous people like you! xo

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  20. My beautiful friend. I'm speechless....You are so brave to share your thoughts with us, and all the struggles you had with your pregnancy. Now, enjoy the great things you are going to experience in your life, that for sure is going to change in a great way. So happy for you and your hubby! I can't wait to know the gender. :D
    ~Tatiana
    We Shop in Heels

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  21. Thank you so much for sharing! Danielle just directed me to this post because I just shared that we have been having trouble conceiving too. I totally understand all the emotion and heartache. This information makes me even more thrilled about your pregnancy! My blog has been a fantastic distraction for me as well as a wonderful source of support. Let's face it, there are some awesome women out here! So glad to have connected with you.

    Amy Ann
    The Real Arnolds

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  22. Thank you for sharing your story. No one really ever knows what is going on in someone elses life. Everyone always thinks that they are the only one with problems. Sounds like you had quite a bit of challenges but I am so happy that your blog helped you to enjoy new things. Congrats on your new baby in May!

    Rebecca
    www.winnipegstyle.ca

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  23. Thank you SO much for sharing your story...there is something about being open and honest and laying it all out there that I respect so much. I too started my blog when I was in the midst of emotional turmoil and it truly helped me to regain "myself" and to remember who I was. It was awful a wonderful outlet at those times when it felt like the world was closing in on me. Congrats on your babe on the way, parenthood is such an incredible experience and I can not believe that my little one is already three! It goes so fast. Thank you for sharing!

    xox, Maya Beth
    mylifeasmaya.com

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  24. It is so great that you have experienced such poitivity in the blogging community! Congrats on hitting one year with the blog, too!
    www.amemoryofus.com

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  25. So excited for baby F and I'll always be rooting for your happiness XO

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